June 2023 Insights – The Power of Questions

My daughter’s favourite sentence is ‘I have a question…’ She certainly is Litte Miss Curious, which is good, as when we were young we were taught that children were seen and not heard! Adults didn’t engage with us, so we were left wondering about so many things.

“The ancestor to every action is a thought” – Emerson.

If every action starts with a thought, then every thought starts with a question we ask ourselves. 

I believe that our mind is the centre of our world. Imagine the universe from your personal perspective is like a circle with you at the centre and your mind is the epicentre of yourself. 

If you have a thought which is not empowering, then you can and should change your thought. How can we do this? By asking ourselves better questions. 

I’ve learned that our mind works like an internet search engine, say Google. The answers you receive are only as good as the quality of the questions you type into the search. 

For example, if you ask “Why can’t I do this” or “Why has this happened to me?” your brain will scan all possible information to find the answer. The longer you keep the question hanging there, the longer the list of possible answers to this question will become.

You can’t ask Google what not to search. If you type in ‘don’t give me information about Singapore’ Guess what happens, it gives you a list of links about Singapore. 

In the same way, you cannot tell the mind what not to think. Look around the room, and do not notice everything in the room which is red. What happened? Did you notice everything red?

So if we’ve leant to use Google to get the answers we are looking for, would you agree it makes sense to do the same with our mind, yes or no?

I believe we should ask ourselves better quality questions:  e.g. How can I achieve my goals? How can I fit this into my schedule? How can I improve this relationship? What do I need to do to heal? 

The most powerful question of all is Why. Be very clear about your why and the How will follow. It’s because your ‘Why’ is your motivation. If you have strong enough reasons Why, these will keep you on track to reach your goals. Why can’t things stay as they are? Why is this important to me? Why do I need to take action now? 

One of my favourite questions is one that Sheryl Sandberg talks about. It’s a very powerful question “What would you do if you were not afraid?”  

So give it a try, next time you feel uncertain, unconfident or scared about a situation; just ask yourself ‘What would you do if you weren’t afraid?’ 

Remember: Courage is not the absence of fear; it’s feeling afraid and taking action anyway. 

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